The Art of Letting Go: How to Unlock Graceful Motherhood Through Surrender

I no longer feel anxiety when I know my child is awake and will cut into my morning writing time. I no longer feel anxiety because it is my every day reality. When I began writing this entry, he was up and rolling in bed by 4h40 – talking to himself, playing with his toys in the crib. Never calling out for mama but wide eyes on the camera as though he knows I’m watching. So, I no longer allow myself to be as invested in this time. I take it as it comes for as long as it may be until he shouts out to me, at which point, me time is over.

Being able to settle that feeling in my spirit has actually had a profound impact on my slow mornings. By letting go, it allows me to sink into the experience with greater gratitude and with amplified grace.

Letting go, as a mother, is an art – and one that deserves being written about in greater depth. So, that’s where I will traverse, today.

Embracing the Peaceful Flow in Motherhood

Letting go is the ability to release expectation, allowing space for trust in the Universe – and with it, enabling you to have a calmer sense of life through this acceptance. It means relinquishing any illusion of perfection or ideal and embracing the messiness and chaos of motherhood. It requires the strength to not only trust in yourself and your ability to handle the unfolding journey, but trust in the Universe and it’s knowledge of what you need – even if it may not look how you want or expect in the morning. Ultimately, letting go is the surest way to infuse calm into your surrendering spirit.

The Practice of Surrender

Mama, let go of control – or at least as much as you can. By releasing the need to control ever aspect of your conscious parenting, you will find greater peace and harmony within your little family unit. For me, this means choosing my nos consciously and carefully. If it won’t hurt my son but will just be a little bit messier to clean later, it gets a yes. But if I’m not in a mental space that will allow me to take on the extra work at the moment, it gets a no.

Embrace Imperfection

Social media is a lie, and motherhood is messy and imperfect, no matter what image you may be sold as you scroll. Believe it or not, what works for one child may not work for you — and that’s okay! It doesn’t mean you child is behind, it doesn’t mean your child is lacking, it doesn’t mean your child is less than because they are imperfect. And neither are you.

Cultivate Presence

The more you let go, the more present in the moment you will be. By relinquishing control over the present, your ability to be mindfully present increases, and you simultaneously allow the distractions and worries about the future to fade away, allowing for a far deeper connection in the everyday.

By letting go of the fear of my son waking up, I allow myself to fully sink into my writing experience without the worry and anxiety that used to plague me. By releasing my worries about upcoming dinners after baby goes down through weekly meal planning, I have no stress surrounding bedtime. By now allowing myself to become overwhelmed by any mess that needs cleaning or laundry that needs washing by knowing it will eventually get done I can fully commit myself to my self-care practices without guilt.

Honouring Boundaries

If there’s one thing we should not let go of in motherhood, it’s the sacrifice of our own needs and our self-care desires. By learning to let go of control and pass the baton to our co-parenter, or by releasing without guilt the feeling that we have to get to something else right away, we set boundaries in our family unit that taking care of ourselves is of primary importance and is one thing we cannot let go of if we wish to have a harmonious household with a fully-realized mama. Letting go of the rest to make room for us is so very important.

The Power of Release

There is a transformative power in releasing emotional baggage and past traumas as we move forward in motherhood. In fact, I wrote about how healing and unlearning allowed me to live my best life in my book, The Transformational Path. By being extra aware or hyper-conscious of how our words, actions, and thoughts may contribute to passing on generational trauma, we are breaking the cycle for our family. When we continue to pass on trauma, we are adding chains and bonds to our motherhood experience that increase the need for control and power. When we break the cycle, we break those bonds and the hold they have over us and create room for release and surrender, allowing us a complete sense of peace and trust in the motherhood journey we have with our little souls in front of us.

Another way that you can be aware of trauma or lessons that may need breaking in order to have a more harmonious mother-child bond is through a Past Life Intercession service, as we have karmic cycles that we sometimes repeat through lifetimes – until we finally unlearn them. You can learn more about how past lives can impact your present relationship from a blog post I wrote about Breaking Past Life Cycles.

Finding Balance

It’s okay to admit to defeat when it comes to the practice of letting go. It doesn’t come naturally for everyone. I always tell my husband, I’m not bossy, I’m just controlling – and yes, there’s a difference! Diving into self-help books or speaking to professionals who are experts in the field of work-life balance (because motherhood is a vocation that goes way past the 9-5), we can get help for letting go of what doesn’t serve us and just makes this journey harder. In addition, an Awakened Mama Life Offering session can help you truly hear from your soul-team what doesn’t serve you and needs clearing or attention in order to have a more harmonious awakened mama journey.

Cultivating Trust

Finally, success in letting go can only truly be found through complete and unwavering trust in the Universe. If there is fear that surrounds this idea, find out why it is there, and challenge yourself to overcome it, as it only stands as a limitation for your complete abundance. Journaling, affirmations, meditation, and support through a conscious parenting community can all offer practical ways to cultivate this trust and to feel more safe on your journey. When I tell you that the Universe has got your back and wants to see you succeed, I’m not lying to you. Abundance is not limited, only the walls we build to let it in – and control, anxiety, and everything that opposes surrender is one big wall in motherhood abundance.

In the sacred journey of motherhood, the art of letting go emerges as a powerful practice, guiding us toward greater grace and wisdom. As we release the burdens of perfectionism and control, we open ourselves to the profound beauty of the present moment. Through surrender, we find liberation – liberation from fear, from doubt, from anxiety, from the relentless pursuit of an unattainable ideal. In letting go, we discover a deeper connection to ourselves, to our children, and to the Divine flow of life itself. May we continue, as awakened mamas, to embrace the transformative power of release, finding solace, joy, and boundless love – AND FREEDOM! – in the gentle art of surrender and unwavering trust in the Universe.

xx C